If a loved one has recently passed away, your family will be going through a stressful time. Grief can change our mental state in many ways, and it can also cause us to act out-of-character. This can potentially lead to a higher amount of tension within the family dynamic, even if everyone is sharing the same grief.
If you are attempting to resolve a family conflict that has arisen during probate administration, it is important to tread carefully. If you are an heir of the estate, some family members might interpret your resolution attempt to be concerned with personal gain. That said, it can be possible to resolve an inheritance conflict. The following are some tips for avoiding and addressing family inheritance conflicts.
Set the rules for decision-making
The executor of the estate should be the person with the authority to make decisions regarding inheritance, and it is important that all family members understand this clearly. There should also be some areas for collaboration and communication, but the executor should always have the final word.
Communication is key
A way to communicate should be established. Ideally, all heirs should be able to meet with the executor in person. However, if this is not possible, a way to communicate in written form should be established.
Refocus the attention on the loved one's legacy
If conflicts arise for petty reasons, family members should be reminded that they are dealing with the legacy of their loved one. Therefore, communication should be respectful and in honor of their life.
If you are struggling to mediate an inheritance conflict, you may want to look into how the law could help.